Marriage: When Sweet Unions Turn Sour
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Marriage: When Sweet Unions Turn Sour

Marriage is a complicated and personal concept. It's meaning ranges from the meeting of two special souls in a union of love to a financial merger complete with preparatory nuptial contacts. There is no such thing as perfect marriage. The perfect marriage is a myth says a famous marriage counselor. Know the 3 great expectations that can make a sweet marriage turns sour. Know the 10 rules for a happy marriage shared from the experts...

What is marriage?

Marriage is a complicated and personal concept.  It's meaning ranges from the meeting of two special souls in a union of love to a financial merger complete with preparatory nuptial contracts says a renowned author.  The best person to marry is someone who will appreciate your craziness.  A person who turns all scream fests and arguments into humorous anecdotes by morning.  Getting married is not a way to compensate of being afraid in the dark.  If that's your motivation, buy a night light instead!

Perfect marriage

There is no such thing as a perfect marriage.  There are good marriages, yes, but perfect marriages, no.  The perfect marriage is a myth says a famous marriage counselor.  When the basic needs of marriage, mutual love, sexual fulfillment, financial security, has been satisfied, discontent arises added a behavioral scientist and co-founder of the Western Behavioral Institute in California.  Furthermore, according to him, "married couples" are never entirely satisfied.  Once one set of needs is met, they move on to seek "higher-order needs."  The tragedy is that these higher-order needs are more complex and therefore, less easy to satisfy on a continuing basis.

Marriage counselors, psychotherapist and behavioral authorities enumerate 3 great expectations that can make a sweet marriage turns sours:

The wife hasn't learn household chores.  Psychotherapists reveal that all successful wives tell you that marriage is also sewing on buttons, doing the laundry, washing the dishes and know how to change a diaper.  Marriage is also praying the whole night for the baby's fever to subside.  Any young bride or new wife who hasn't learned any household chores or refuses to learn them is to her husband is a frustration.  On the other hand the husband should learn to accept the fact that sometimes, the wife does not have the energy for "mothering" and romance.

Married couples carry memories of early marriage experiences.  Some married couples have so much expectation on sex.  Behavioral scientists argue that many Western marriages flounder because so much weight and expectations are placed on sex.  Married couples now expect a wide range of sexual performance.  They are seriously disappointed when the experiments don't succeed.  There is a desperate search not only for orgasm, but for more ecstasy, peak experiences and more super orgasms.  Not sometimes but they want it every time added the scientist.

Fantasies about what other marriages are like.  According to marriage counselors many couples tend to think that their friends, colleague's marriage is more perfect than theirs.  Discontent arises because of fantasies about what other marriages are like.  Married couples feel they must create an image claim that shows only the best side.  Furthermore the behavioral scientist claim that everyone knows that no marriage is perfect.  Married couples have fights and disillusionment.  Yet many times some couples undermine their marriage by assuming that other marriages are somehow better than theirs.

Solution to the Problems.  The solution to the problem is not to expect too much says a relationship expert.

                                            10 RULES FOR A HAPPY MARRIAGE SHARED FROM THE EXPERTS:

                                             

                                             

                                             

                                             

                                             

                                             

                                              

                                              

                                              

                                              

Whether you find yourselves in the throes of new love, or in the midst of a long-term relationship, you know that one thing is for sure: Your love relationships require a trememdous amount of work.  Keeping love alive and well doesn't require a daily, weekly, or monthly bouquet of roses but rather a bouquet of love and affection delivered to your partner on a regular basis says a marriage counselor.

Resource:

     Parachin, Victor, "Making Love Last and Last."  Woman's Home Companion Vol. XXVII No. 17

     Torrento, Jesus, "When Sweet Unions Turn Sour."  Women's Journal 27 July 02

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Comments (9)

Very great ideas that are needed these days. Thank you Jessy.

Thanks for the reminders. Marriage can be beautiful if both partners are committed to making it work.

Love the quotes and pictures!

Marriage has its bitter and sweet moments. Love the quotations.

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THANKS FOR DROPPING BY AND READING MY ARTICLE...

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I agree with you Gayle. Thanks for dropping by.

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Thanks for the positive comment Kimberley...

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Thanks for the comment Phoenix...

I have been here before. : (

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